he is who he is bc of what his alcoholic father put him through.
yeah, NO.
that's trying to find an EXCUSE for his inexcusable behaviors, which you stated in part to be:
He's been arrested 15 times, he's been beaten up without knowing what happened, he's woken up in jail with a broken arm not knowing how he got there, he's been peeled off the cement and taken to a gas station by a helpful stranger who called me to come and get him, he lost his career due to embarrassing himself due to his drinking
a lot of us had lousy childhoods, with alcoholic or abusive parents, and not every one of us had that kind of alcoholic rap sheet. in fact often the predictable trait of the ACOA is to be OVERLY-responsible, over-achievers, those who care about others too much.
knowing or finding all this out didn't deter you.....somehow you found someone with this laundry list of bad behavior ATTRACTIVE indicates you chose to look past those things and see what you wanted to see.