casimay.....definitely talk to him about it when he is sober. Talking to a drunk person is a waste of your breath.....
For example...put the card on the table....I would suggest telling him that you find him disgusting when he is drunk and not to come near you....also,when he does it, go to another room, or leave the area, if you can...take the child and go to the park, the mall, or visit someone, etc.....
If it is at night...buy a pair of those headphones that block out all noise, and wear them (after child is asleep)....sleep in another bedroom, if you can....
This kind of thing is enforcing your boundaries....
If he gets mad...well, he can get glad in the same pants that he got mad in....
If he says that you are mean....picture him, in your mind, as a little quacking duck...(we call that "quacking", around here....and we call picturing him as a quacking little duck as "detaching" from his behavior...
I agree with you, that drunken behavior is annoying, beyond words.....