Originally Posted by
ExhaustedPigeon 
I have no idea how to respond to this because in my house I was your annoying husband.
Similar story, I am the annoying partner. Honestly, I convinced myself for years I was an absolute riot after 10 beers, turns out I was just obnoxious.
It's a tough one, because I know when I was confronted I got defensive and that's likely what will happen if he's not ready to accept the problem. But I think its still worth doing, although I dismissed my girlfriends concerns at the time it did lay some seeds of self reflection that had a big impact later on.