Originally Posted by
honeypig 
The following links are part 1 and 2 of a reading about "Healing the Loss of a Dream." As has been pointed out, not only in this thread but in so many others all throughout this forum, what many of us are in "love" with is NOT the actual A, but with his/her
potential, with what could be/might have been, with the dreams we had for the future. It's terribly hard when we begin to accept that those particular dreams will never come to fruition, but it's also an important part of healing to realize that what we are mourning is not so much the actual end of a relationship that often has pretty much rotted away already anyway, as it is about the loss of those hopes and plans.
https://www.cottonwooddetucson.com/p...ner-112011.pdf https://www.cottonwooddetucson.com/p...ner-112011.pdf This is awesome. This sums up my experience perfectly. I realized I didn't actually like my ex kind of early...it actually really hurt. He had amazing potential though. The loss of that dream is a huge blow.