Originally Posted by
dandylion 
loveandmagic....You might benefit from the following:
Papers on Addiction and Recovery
There are several articles written by Floyd P. Garrett, M.D.
You might appreciate the one......"The Addict's Dilemma" and...."Addiction, Lies, and Relationships".....and, "Excuses Alcoholics Make".....
It may help take some of the guilt and responsibility off your shoulders.
Alcoholics don't drink at us, or, necessarily, to hurt us...or, even because we aren't good enough....they drink because that is what alcoholics do...
When they DO drink...it is like major parts of their "normal" brains have been chemically removed.....
This was the best thing I've read in ages. It really brought me a lot of relief. I beat myself up bc I feel like my love failed him, I feel like I just completely failed him. This helped bring me some peace, knowing that he really is just a sick man. 😢