Just wanted to update. I did not bring this up over the weekend. Thankfully, my inlaws are now out of town, and I didn't need to address either issue.
I'm not sure if I'm now playing a game of chicken with him or am just letting this play out (I hope I'm not fooling myself on my motives). The weekend was extremely confusing, with him showing signs of letting it go then going right back to the active ignoring phase. Ugh! I feel like I'm living with a middle school mean girl right now.
I managed to get to a meeting Thursday and today and the topics came into worrying and not forcing solutions - divine intervention, maybe? lol
Hope everyone had a good Easter!