Originally Posted by
August252015 
Along this train of thought - good idea. I have a friend who needs to quit drinking. I know he's an alcoholic. He knows he's an alcoholic. He knows he has an open invitation to join me at a meeting anytime, or do anything else about his disease that I can help him do. I have distanced myself as far as spending time with him - we mostly communicate occasionally via text- and I do care about him a lot. He has seen 99% of my alcoholic journey. He admires my sobriety. He has to do it for himself and right now- he doesn't get a seat at my table.
Me too. Way I see it with my old drinking buddy, at the moment I don't have anything he wants and he doesn't have anything I want. All he wants is someone to listen to him go over and over the problem. But ultimately he wants to carry on drinking without the consequences of drinking. The day he contacts me to say he's ready to start talking about the solution I'll be there, but for now, he doesn't get a seat at my table. He's sick, and I have to remember that I have a low immunity for that kind of stuff myself and stay away from slippery people and places.
Might sound harsh to some. The people who think that are welcome to go listen to his drunken or hungover self-pity record on repeat if they believe that will help him. I don't belive for one second it does anything to help him while he still wants to drink, and I value my sobriety too much to jeopardy it.
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