Sasha 1972......I think you make an interesting observation....that you had always thought that you could "talk things out, and, clear up misunderstandings".....
LOL!....isn't that what we were all taught, growing up? That if we would just communicate ....that was the best way to resolve conflicts with another person?
Welll......here is the sticky wicket. This works with normalish, healthy relationships ...and, it is (I believe), basically, good advice.
It does not work in relationships with addiction and abuse. Nobody told us that!! They didn't tell us that alcoholism turns all the usual rules of relationships topsy-turvy!
They didn't tell us that JADE is the tool of choice with unreasonable people...because nothing else works.