You're probably right about no reply at all. This is the hangover from years of thinking "maybe we can just talk things out and these misunderstandings will be cleared up". But if we could "talk things out" without alcohol making things crazy, we'd still be married. And at the moment, he is in the depths of the batsh*t-crazy phase of his addiction cycle.
It's amazing that "detachment" is such a simple concept yet so hard to practice consistently. No wonder that AA, Al-Anon and as far as I know all kinds of twelve-step groups stress the Serenity Prayer so much. It's a case of "simple ain't easy".