Hi there hon and welcome to SR. You're not alone anymore - there are lots of us here who are living or have lived with an alcoholic.
Pop down to the Friends and Family boards and have a read around, especially the sticky or "power" posts.
I don't have any kids myself, but lots of people here do, so why not do a new post down there and someone will be along who can answer your questions.
Glad you've found us.