Yeah, what Dee said.
Hi Kiki,
That's really difficult.
I don't have great advice here, but take your time to work out a solution. Setting boundaries takes time.
The world drinks. Strength to not be one of them lies within each one of us....and it's usually something we have figure out on our own. No one, not even a spouse, can be responsible for my drinking (or not drinking).
But maybe he should get a hotel next time he goes on a bender. That's what I would tell my husband.