Old 03-07-2017, 12:10 PM
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Interventions like you see on TV are not usually successful. The ones on TV are done with a professional interventionist - someone who has been trained and who works closely with the rehab into which the addict will be placed at the time of the intervention. Many hours of family therapy precede those TV intervention attempts. The rehab is already lined up and paid for. The family has to be 100% on board with hard boundaries.

AA doesn't do this. It could be that an AA member will talk to him outside of the intervention, but pretty doubtful that any AA member would lay down ultimatums or even be at an intervention like you see on TV. AA is about attraction, not promotion. It's more like church than rehab. Members are not paid and no one shows up at interventions to run things. There are no "AA Professionals." AA members know that it has to be the addict's idea and that attempts at controlling an addict are futile.

This is a touchy thing, and especially with a violent man like your husband. I would call a Domestic Violence hotline and make a plan to get out long before I would be worrying about an intervention. You are in danger.
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