Thank you Ann! That's exactly my hang up -- I felt like by not acknowledging it I'm worried that enabling her or supporting the problem. I've been thinking about this all day and having some advice on what to tell her when she puts me on the spot is really helpful.
I also think I have a little gut reaction to her saying she's in recovery, because despite the fact that I'm learning to focus on myself, I really would love for her to be in recovery.