Her recovery real or not real, go with your gut on that one!, is not your issue and it has nothing to do with your own recovery.
You say she is all about smoke and mirrors, sometimes we have to stop looking in their mirrors and focus only on the person looking back at us from our own mirror.
Resentment is a good one to work on via al-anon, it will eat you alive if you don’t stop it in it’s tracks.
The old saying………resentment is like drinking poison and then waiting for the other person to die.