Alicia I'm so glad to hear you saying that you're looking at ways of getting support for YOUrself and not get so caught up and dependent on the bad decisions he makes. (Including the recent "geographic cure" idea). It sounds like you jumped from one dependent relationship (under your parents) to another with him and haven't found your own voice quite yet. And dynamics are gonna change BIG TIME when your little one is born (they already have with the pregnancy and some of the focus being taken off him, no?) I'm also VERY glad to hear of your desire to return to full time work at some point soon, too. Especially after you saying you expect HIM to provide for the family. That thinking really puts you in an insecure situation especially with a needy, selfish, unsafe person as he is. You've got a lot on your plate and I hope things go well for you and you have some solid support systems and friendships in place for YOU.