not focus so much on programs like alanon because it keeps me (at least) tied so close to addiction and alcoholism, and constant reminders due to peoples shares and makes me feel depressed
ignoring it won't make it go away. you LIVE with addiction.
my husband has tossed around the idea several times that maybe we should just move back to where we used to live. (another state) because we were happy there
this is what can be known as "doing a geographical" - oh the bad stuff happened HERE, let's go somewhere else! but if i recall, you met him back in the other state, he od'd in the other state. it wasn't all sunshine and daisies. see the problem is.....no matter WHERE he goes, there HE is. you guys had high hopes with THIS move, remember? better job, closer to the folks, fresh start.