I think that if I were in your shoes I would feel better telling all of this to my husband, including that you know that some of it is unfair or irrational, but that you can't help feeling it anyway. And including that you want to be happy for him.
I think what you DON'T want is to have your resentment manifest in your behavior toward him so that he then doesn't understand why you're acting the way you are, and you feel guilty for taking your frustration out on him.
Why not talk to him and give him a chance to understand what you're feeling and support you in whatever way you need? Maybe it will make you feel better just to unload it all and get it out in the open where you can deal with it together. Maybe you'll be even stronger as a couple for it.
I think that ugly, "wrong" or irrational feelings are just kind of part of being human. They are for me, anyway.
Good luck!