I understand exactly how you feel. I found a 30 day chip from A.A. one day when I picked up my exA's jeans that were lying on the bedroom floor. Fell out as I was starting to fold them. All I could do was cry...I thought how can you accept this chip from people that are working so hard at recovery....how dare you fool them. Your post has me thinking maybe he wasn't the only liar in his group. I guess the only person he was kidding was himself. I did confront him about it and he said...."yeah I know I feel bad about accepting it".....all I could say was with eyes rolling..."really." As you know A's can't be honest with anyone that includes themselves....