Lexie - Thank you I will go and check that out link.
It's actually frightening to ponder the idea that he's abusing me. But liberating as well as I can finally see that this is not acceptable behavior and that I didn't do anything to earn this.
So much to read - all of this is really helpful.
Originally Posted by
LexieCat 
I'd suggest calling your local women's shelter and speaking with an advocate. You are the victim of abuse, which is a totally separate issue from the drinking, even if it gets worse when he drinks. I've worked professionally in the domestic violence field for many years, and suicide threats are indicative of serious danger to you. Maybe he hasn't "hit" you yet, but I've known suicide/homicides to happen even when there was no serious physical violence before.