[QUOTE]says that he needs to feel that I still love him even when he's drinking; I do, I just have a hard time showing it because of all the other feelings going through me at the time
the A in my life used this on me so many times: If he just knew I would stick with him and if he knew for sure I loved him or if I would be with him all the time, be there for him all the time - then he would not drink. I learned it didn't matter what I did or how I felt good, bad or indifferent - he drank when he wanted to drink.
I went to a total of 3 meetings some time back. When I thought I was done with him, I stopped. Big mistake. We have been back and forth for 3 years. Tomorrow I'm going back to Al anon and this time I'm in it for the long haul. I see now I need help regardless of whether he's in my life or not or if he's drinking or not.