Originally Posted by
SparkleKitty 
Right. So if he knows you will not enforce the mandatory supervisor and just do it yourself, this is likely to continue and both you and he will be in this holding pattern indefinitely of acting like a "sort of" family. He is in your space too much and doesn't have to create a separate life for himself. And while your son may be comforted by this, I'm not sure it helps him understand and accept that mom and dad are not together anymore.
True - need to be more strict. It just breaks my heart to turn him away and watch DS suffer. He normally only shows up like this once a month max - more over the holidays.
He is starting to talk about "next year arrangements" (we have 1 year review in parenting plan). I will let him initiate that, which means it probably is not happening since he is too lazy