Originally Posted by
Doug39 
No not at all.
But in her mind she sees me changing to a sober lifestyle as an indication that I will eventually find another women or just leave her. She even said that we met in a bar and always drank together and that is our life - and I am the one messing it up by sobering up.
So is she going to continuously nag you if you choose sobriety? Is she going to get drunk and start arguments?
Either learn to "turn it over" as they say in AA or consider seeing a marriage counselor on your own.