Hi Doug
My late husband didn't like me going to AA either. Not worth getting into the tangled web of that reasoning.
Point is, it was a tangled web. In order for our marriage to work I would have had to untangle, with his help, that web. No matter what.
What about counseling for you and your wife? Dropping out of AA is another band-aide for you and your wife. Just like drinking. Its all dodging the real issue, IMO.