Great to hear you are into step four. We seem to get a bit of grace around that step. What used to trip me up was more around step 10. 4 is dealing with the past, up to the day we stop drinking. 10 deals with the now. Just stopping drinking didn't change my way of operating in the world. I still had an alcoholic mind and as a result made many mistakes post stopping that put me in conflict with others both externally and internally. Step 10, cleaning up any new mistakes as I went along, saved my life.
The books suggestions around step ten are that we commence this way of living AS we clean up the past (4-9) not after. And it is so much easier to fix it now than let it fester and grow.