So where does compassion come into play?
I had compassion is spades for him and I realised eventually it was wasted on him. He didn't want compassion, he wanted the housekeeping to drink. I woke up, cut my losses and got out. That was compassion for myself and ultimately my kids. It came too late for my older ones tho. Their childhoods got ruined. Nothing can give them that time back. I bitterly regret not listening to wise people on here in 2009 and letting him stay moved out then.