Originally Posted by
Berrybean 
Why not actually talk to your Dad about this? It might be that there are some meetings that could work for you both being there (Big Book study or Step Study for example, where the talk is about the program rather than ourselves) , and others wouldn't be so comfortable for either of you. He's likely to feel exactly the same way you do about it, so it's more a case of agreeing the boundaries about who's going where. I suspect that if you don't have that conversation you're going to be worrying that you'll bump into him, or someone who knows him at a meeting, and what he will say or think about you going but not chatting to him.
Most personal stuff tends not you be shared in meetings with the whole room anyway. That would be one to one with a sponsor, or close AA friends as you make them. No one actually has to say anything in a meeting if they don't want to, and anyway, we learn much more by listening than by talking.
I hope your out of town meeting goes well enough that you feel emboldened to chat to your father about the more local meetings.
Wishing you all the best for your recovery. BB
Maybe one day Berrybean, but not for the foreseeable future. He is an interesting man - no longer an aggressive alcoholic, but it's not like he has become a completely different person either. He is still quite arrogant, self-centred, and condescending. I'm worried that talking to him, and his reaction, would be a trigger in itself!
He also did some truly horrible things to me growing up, that I will probably never get over completely. The memories have softened now, and I am so proud and happy that he stopped drinking. I love my dad. But that past does mean that I find it hard to let him in as much as perhaps other people might do with their parents.