thousandwords...since he is not working a diligent program toward recovery.....It feels to me like he is looking for some excuse to not stop drinking......
Even if you went totally abstainent, I suspect that he would find another rationalization. His "alcoholic voice " is whispering to him....."You deserve to drink" "You deserve to be a normal drinker"
I, also, suspect that he resents you for trying to come between him and his ability to drink as he wishes...All alcoholics resent everyone and everything that comes between them and their alcohol.....
It feels like he is fighting with you (he is),,,,but, his big battle is actually between himself and the "alcoholic voice"...the voice of his disease.....