Originally Posted by
Ken33xx 
I grew up in a household where amends were regularly made. The problem is the behavior never changed.
When I got sober no one especially my wife wanted to hear I was sorry.
What they wanted was a change in my behavior and rightfully so.
This. SO this. By the time I finished my last drunk none of my loved ones wanted to hear 'sorry' anymore. In fact, they didn't really want to hear what I had to say at all. And at the time it was crushing because I wanted to make everything better RIGHT NOW, as us addicts are wont to do.
The only way I can make amends moving forward is 'walking the walk'. The good news is, is that it works.