Originally Posted by
BrendaChenowyth 
Then what does it mean to make amends to someone? If they never actually hear from you, and you never make up for having hurt them, how are you making amends to them?
Living amends are a way of living your life in a way to not let whatever happened before happen again. It's literally amending YOUR life to live in a new, better way. Let's say for example someone was physically abusive to another person when they were drinking. Contacting that person to make direct amends may not be appropriate, or even legal. So a living amend might be to go through anger management or even volunteer for a domestic violence group as an example.