Originally Posted by
BrendaChenowyth 
At some point, taking responsibility turned to taking blame, and blame turned to shame, and shame turned to self-loathing...
"You cannot change the past" is true in a literal sense, but don't let those words become a straight jacket. You can often change the consequences of past actions with your behavior in the present. Taking FULL responsibility for past involves doing what is possible to repair the damage done. This is the basic idea of making
amends and it's worked quite well for many of us
.