Originally Posted by
ScottFromWI 
There's no "magic bullet" answer to your question Brenda, but there is a solution, it's just different for everyone. For some it's diving in head first to 12 step recovery. For others it involves therapy - addiction specific or focused on specific life issues. Some pull heavily on religion/spirituality. There are plenty more too an I'm sure you've read about them, but if not check out the stickys again in newcomers.
The healing will not be immediate either...3 months is great but it's still very early in the grand scheme of things. You need patience and to try and concentrate on small steps...they add up over time
Certainly, all of that goes without saying..
It's not that about finding the right recovery path or getting to a certain point fast.
As an addict, while I was under the influence, I did a lot of things I'm not proud of, and while I want to take 100% accountability, is this realistic and fair?
In other words, was I in control of my behavior?