Originally Posted by
Nata1980 
I am a full time working mother - and I was terrified that I was not going to make it after I parted with XAH - turns out I absolutely can and it is, in fact, easier
Nata - me too, full time working mother. It is many time easier to the 10th power. I actually get room to think and respond instead of always be anger or on the defensive.
My mother always said, 'how is he really helping you out, he takes the kid to school and that's about it. ' It literally takes me 15 extra minutes in the morning to be at peace the rest of the day. The mornings aren't as frustrating having to nag at him to do the things needed to get my son off to school. I just do it. My house stays 1000 times cleaner and when I do the dishes or clean, I am not angry and resentful about doing almost everything. So yes, most of us, who have disfunctional, irresponsilbe, adult-addicted children living with us are already doing it ALL and then some.