Well I can tell you that the only one that was living in a crappy apartment with cinder block furniture after my divorce was definately NOT me. Honestly though, if that would have been what I needed to do to get the heck away from my EXH I would have lived that way!!
My exh and I were roommates for most of my 11 year marriage. I couldn't stand him after year one but I was pregnant ( that in itself was a miracle ) lol and thought maybe, just maybe things would change once the baby was born. Yeah, they changed alright, for the worse.
Here's what I can tell you. I also was a stay at home mom but I also knew that there was NO WAY I was going to spend the rest of my life in a loveless marriage with a pill popping addict. Nope! I got a job and started socking away money and with the help of my family was able to file for divorce. We sold the house and I rented a townhouse for two years until I bought my own home with my OWN money. Him? Well, he still lives in a studio apartment...
You can do it!