Kw0920, your in my thoughts. There's so many similarities. We don't talk about anything except what he wants to talk about and I just don't care anymore. It will never ever be about me. So I've taken myself out of any equation. If he would really care he would really make an effort. Same with you MIL she is a separate person with her own reasons to have a relationship. If she wants to have a relationship you two will find a way though it will be hard if you need to go no contact due to triggers.