Originally Posted by
Bekindalways 
Hey KidsR#1, where are you with your own recovery? Have you been going to Alanon?
Unfortunately many of us codies can wind up getting right back into a similar relationship if we don't work out our own issues. This guy could be another verse of the same song you have been singing with STBXAH.
My therapist said this summer I was doing great. Alanon meetings don't got my schedule. Live in small town. I feel good about my own recovery. Totally different from where I was at last December or even this spring. I am aware we tend to revert back to our codie behaviors. One of the reasons why this relationship isn't more serious at this point at my end. I am being cautious. Plus we both have kids to consider.