Dear luvmyfurbabies,
I am new to these boards so don't have a lot of experience. I don't have an alcoholic husband, only a substance abusing brother. It sounds like you need to be able to get away from your husband when he is drinking, so that he understands that you want to have a relationship with him, not with his smelly breath and tanked personality. It doesn't sound like you are getting a fair chance to have a relationship here. Have you been married a long time? Was there a time when he didn't drink as much and you liked him better?
I'm sure you know you're not alone in feeling depressed and frustrated about someone love affair with a substance that seems to take precedence over their love/affection for you.