I truly understand mimimizing and getting used to less- it is how I stayed so long. I get it, thousand words. It's a no win situation- you can stay, not minimize- freak out a bit and get no good result and instead become miserable and controlling yourself- you can stay and change your attitude- hey its not so bad, he's drunk again big deal- this will pass- build your own life- and expect less and less as time goes on- or -you can leave. Those are the only three options I could see. I started with option one, moved to two, and when the crap got too high, I moved to the third option.