My boyfriend stopped confronting me. When he found alcohol in the house he would put it on the kitchen table. When I would see it I would get the biggest 'pang' in my head and heart. I would sit him down and tell him that I needed help. I was the one who had to feel his pain and dissappointment without him saying a word. It was more powerful than a verbal confrontation. This only works if the person still feels regret and remorse and can feel how much pain he is causing to the loved ones.