Hi Thousandwords,
So this weekend he didn't shout or attack and there was no major drama. And because living with an A acclimatises us to lower and lower expectations about what "OK" or "decent" or even "good" means, you managed to find some (relative) peace and enjoyment. That is, on one level, a basic survival strategy that most of us on these boards have used, consciously or unconsciously.
BUT on another level... "he drank. Maintained the steady buzz he lives in. He did pass out Friday and Saturday night. Once in bed, so that was nice not to have to step over him. The next night, it was on the couch next to me so I left him there once the snoring was too loud to finish the movie I was watching...."
Read that out loud. It's almost funny in its matter-of-factness, its "be thankful-for-small-mercies-ness". BUT, imagine those words were spoken by one of your kids as an adult, describing their weekend with their partner... Would you want them to settle for that?
Hugs.