I am single and consider myself a work in progress success story
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1 - I am terrified of repeating the same mistakes.
2 - I kinda love this single thing for now.
I had a horrible start to this year, and I got really, really selfish - in a good way.
I tried dating a bit - which I can see now was at least in part out of being in pain (not a great way to start a relationship.)
I quit smoking.
I took some time away from everyone and every thing to grieve.
I camped and fished my face off this summer.
I rode my motorcycle ALL.THE.TIME.
I started exercising. I practiced saying NO, and quit trying to justify not wanting to do something beyond just not wanting to do it.
I spent plenty of time with family and friends.
And I kept working on me. And I don't doubt that I will want a relationship again...but at this moment, I have a very difficult time seeing myself willing to give up much of my time or energy for someone else.
If we can keep the healthy relationship with ourselves on our priority list above all else, I believe we can recover....but I also believe complacency can suck us back towards our old habits as easy as a recovering alcoholic.