I had a gent like this.. he was great to start with.. even with my kids.. and then the all night drinking started and the music and his sleeping all day.. and we were close.. not like you and your young man.. but weekends at the family home on the lake.. fishing.. Jean and Dolly his Mom and Dad.. loved my 3 kids to bits..my daughter was 8 at the time .. Mom can we just marry Jean and Dolly and have them as a family.. loved them to bits... they have passed ... he still is a drunk.. and they gave him everything... when my home burned.. he took that hike.. that did not include me and kids. time to cut the bonds and move on.. well we did. my 3 are great adults.. I have a lovely life that would not have been the same with him.. so roll the dice kiddo. roll the dice...