Ah, yes...the Harlequin Romance effect. At this time of year, the ION television network is playing made-for-tv movies continuously. They are all Christmas romance stories with the same basic theme. It's all very romantic and heartwarming but very much not real.
What I learned is that real people and real relationships can be wonderful and beautiful and challenging. That a relationship can be beautiful in the grocery shopping, the laundry, the cooking, and the cleaning just because you are with someone who loves you and whom you love. There is a balance. Neither person sacrifices their entire being to please the other. Each works for the benefit of the other. No daily excitement or drama, no "terminal uniqueness", just peace, mutual respect, and joy. So much joy!
I hope, Smarie, that you find that some day.