Im glad those posts didnt keep you away.
I think for me , this is post 3,468 or something like that. In those 3 thousand odd posts there have been a couple if times where I've been accused of being unkind or hurtful. In each of those incidents I have reread my post a few times and 'kind of' seen how it could be misinterpreted, if emphasis was put in places that I hadn't intended, or a malicious rather than light-hearted tone was used. In each of those incidents I was mortified that I could have hurt their feelings and apologised. There is so much room for misunderstanding online, esp when people are busy, or and responding in a hurry, and esp with people from so many countries and regions on one site, so tone and emphasis will vary from one member to another.
I for one hope it wasn't me that upset you, and will continue trying not to upset anyone of any forum, but esp the Newcomers one.