I think "the show" is the thing that I can't stand most about my dysfunctional family of origin. All that my alcoholic mother ever cared about was what "other people think." We went no contact with she and my dad in March and really have heard very little from them until now, with the holidays coming up. Instead of actually really missing us, their family, they are really more concerned with what will people think if they aren't spending the holidays with their kids and grandkids. The show is just so empty -appearances and no real feeling. I am so grateful that I was able to break free of that to have authentic, genuine relationships.