Originally Posted by
Refiner 
I don't know. If I had no assets going into the relationship I could see how I could honor the BF's request that we cohabitate but don't intermingle the assets "just in case". But we've a set of friends who did this after he had to give half his wealth from HIS business to his -ex in the divorce and now his live-in GF just gets Cadillacs and jewelry from him to prove his love and commitment (and she's become very resentful after 12 years). On the flip side, I had been dating my then BF (now husband) for 5 years and refused to cohabitate unless he was willing to commit long-term (e.g. Marriage since I sold my house to move into his). We both had our own houses, savings, jobs, 401k, etc. You really need to be on the same page and get you needs and fears out on the table.
We both have assets to protect and I'm not OK intermingling our stuff right now because I don't want to pay for his kids college expenses nor would I expect him to help me pay for my son's expenses, either.
We keep making moves toward a further commitment towards each other and even today he said he'd be OK with me having POA on certain things to execute health directives, etc. I'm not even sure I'd go that far for myself yet.
We've only been together for 19 months (I think) and I need more time to figure out what I want and if I will want more from a man moving forward. Different story, but I'm still figuring out ME and it's not fair for me to ask him to commit to me if I'm not even sure I want a 'forever' type of commitment. Some days I'm wracked with fear and I'm ready to jump ship. Other days I'm so committed and in love that it makes my head spin. Maybe it's just pre menopause, lol? I just know I have some work to do on me and I'm ok with how things are today.
I just thought it was funny how my brain went in two totally different directions in the span of 3 minutes!