Originally Posted by
BrokenDown1975 
I know that I have to make some changes and stop enabling him. what am I supposed to do or say when he goes out? Do I react to it at all how do I act the next day?
As others have said, don't react at all. You don't have to say anything either.
Next, day just keep going about doing things that
you want to do or that you need to do-with or without his participation or support. You do not need to
"engage" in what he's doing or done. Keep "engaged" with yourself and what
you're doing - keep the focus on
yourself. For co-dependents, that's a hard concept to grasp at first.