I hear you Hope but read all the responses. And I believe the OP meant well, just didn't word it right. Sometimes when someone says or does something that hurts me I have to challenge my thinking. See if from the angle of the other person. Did the OP mean to hurt anyone? No, I don't believe so. And do I have to internalize it that way? Nope I don't.
The newcomers forum is for the new people and the born again new people! Me included....and anyone else. Its all good.
Hey some good discussion came out of this thread and it demonstrated that the majority of people here feel just as you do! Winner winner chicken dinner.