French- a couple comments. I am glad that you are finding a path to what works for you. I would just echo the earlier post that it can be (seems to be for you) the case that it is the people, not the program, who are the "problem." The folks you live with aren't living a good program if guilt and pressure are part of their M.O. IMO, that would be true for any program's adherents.
Keep going! You are thoughtful and working to keep moving forward in a way that works for you. You can do it.