hi .. just my take . set the boundries of when he can come over.. have your employer chat with the payee of the account.. and the family stops it in that direction without to much fuss... like the man that I knew so long ago.. some times its nice to run into him in public.. in a store.. now that we have moved to another side of town .. the chances of running into him is less every day.... last time I saw him from a distance.. he was smaller then me sadder... and older... so much older. and we are only a couple of years in age apart.. life changes and the Path that we must take .. is the correct one to follow.. prayers for a better today..