Hey, Brenda. I think I understand what you are getting to. I spent a fair amount
of my single life--long time back-- pursuing emotionally distant men. I just had to make them notice me, make them see how special I was . ( I am pretty special, but that's a story for another day. ) Thankfully, in the course of time and enlightenment, I came to see that that behavior was not a recipe for dating success. It could be that you are simply seeing things more clearly now that you are not drinking. If it were me, I would keep doing my job with the feisty aunt if it gives you satisfaction with a job well done. But...(there is always a but) if interacting with her nephew is a drinking trigger for you, then maybe you should get reassigned. your recovery is the most important thing. Dunno if this helps. Wishing you the best. Peace.